Familiarity brings contempt. Does it really? Familiarity brings contempt. Um...should it be so? Though it is known and accepted by all a sundry, but I tell you the respect is being gradually removed. Disrespect to any human being is of evil. Familiarity should never bring contempt from the broader view of it. This my statement does not bring laxity in its trail but should rather bring vigilance, alertness and furthering in its stead, by the time I share the broader view of it with you. Still, one must be very careful in choosing acquaintances because of the various level of spiritual maturity of each individual. Not for nothing is the English adage, “show me your friends and I will tell you who you are.”
Familiarity brings contempt. This is a saying that has been for ages and has been accepted by all as I mentioned earlier, but this should not be. Through this saying are permissible habits under its protection which gave way to such conducts. It necessarily must not be so, I tell you. Familiarity should bring regard and respect if not the way it has been looked upon for ages that prompted this saying “familiarity brings contempt.” It is a privilege for paths of two or more human spirits to cross each other. Most times, it is brought about by the Grace of the Lord. Though in some circumstances, at times, it is forcefully brought about by some for a desperate purpose which could sometimes hinder and hamper the spiritual advancement of the ones concerned. “Familiarity brings contempt.” It is what mankind has attached to this saying. Familiarity should never bring contempt but regard and respect if truly brought about by genuine love of the soul for the other. Genuine love for every creature of the Lord must it be. Mankind should have regard and respect for all that issues from God. When one becomes conscious of the Magnitude of the Lord. Then one will no longer act in such a manner that will bring about contempt in friendship. Everyone will respect all that emanates from God. Amongst such are His creatures. He loves all alike and there is no cause for us His creatures, to behave contrary to His ways. Every friendship should emerge from the consciousness of being permitted by the Grace of the Lord which allows the friendship to come about in the first place. If you genuinely love the Lord, you will love all His creatures with your whole being and treat all with regard and respect which they deserve. With His creatures, there should never exist contempt between them at all. Regard and respect should span above contempt in familiarity, and it should continue to grow between friends and never depreciate or diminish as they get more familiar with each other. When there exists genuine love of the soul, the friendship should bring in its trail, respect and regard as well. Then with that, there will exist a mutual friendship worthy of emulation, but this is not so in the world we now live in. The world at present, when friendship grows, the respect is gradually being removed. Not too long, there comes the probability of darkness setting in. Anywhere harmony is not in order, the way it is ordained by God in Creation, the Light is no longer there. It departs immediately from the union or friendship amongst a group of people. When everyone is aware that what you do for your neighbor you actually do for yourself which must surely be accounted for through the Law of Reciprocity. What you sow you shall reap, no one will then treat his neighbor wrongly or do him harm. What then would allow contempt to creep into friendship. It would never occur from either of the party to bring contempt into their friendship. So be conscious of this.
A hypocrite is worse than an evil doer. Love must be genuine to every human spirit you come across. If not, detach immediately and go your way. By not detaching, you become a hypocrite. Away with such hypocrisy and do the right. There should be honesty in all that you do. Mean it. Mean it from the heart, all that you do and say. Never pretend. Mean even friendship when you are permitted to experience it. Not for nothing, is the saying of Christ that goes thus, “let your ye be ye and your ne be ne.” Meaning- “let your yes be yes and your no be no. “For whatever cometh after this is of evil.” So, detach yourself from unhealthy friendship. Remove every soil of hypocrisy within you and go the plain and true way. Have genuine love of the soul for all creatures of the Lord, by so doing you will not err or do the wrong and fall out of the harmony in Creation. This is the way it is supposed to be with every interaction between all human spirits journeying together. No pretenses but honesty between all. There should be self-restraint to maintain this at all times. Correct each other in love when offended and also forgive at the same time. Bear with each other in mistakes and weaknesses. Also pray to the Lord for strength to have love enough to able to overlook the mistakes of others and not allow it penetrate into you to bring forth anger and bitterness out of you. Instead you should wish the other the strength to overcome his weaknesses. Genuine love of the soul it must be amongst mankind or nothing. Not by calculative motives or advantageous seeking. Be true in all that you do, I must mention once again.
When two people meet if spiritually alert, they should sense if it is prompted by the Lord's Grace. If so, they must enter the relationship with joy in the heart in gratitude to God for this Grace. For you will not come across every human spirit on this earth plane. You will only be permitted to meet a few. So when this happens, through the Lord’s Grace, cherish the relationship when not brought by desperation of a self-will, jubilantly and gratefully must you praise the Lord, your God, for the opportunity He has granted to you and the goodness He has shown you. You will not abuse the opportunity due to the conscious of this Grace. When two people or a group meet, they must accord each other with regard and respect. If one of the parties could still be humble when familiar, the regard and respect diminishes from the other, but this must not be so. There must still exist that regard and respect even if one of the parties is so humble. Do not take advantage of the humility of the one that is, for if you do, you burden yourself greatly with enormous guilt. We human spirits must be aware that we should at this time avoid all that will bring guilt upon us at this crucial epoch. Never take for granted a familiar one but accord with regard and respect that one that has become familiar to you. If you lack this, you err and that is not fine. Not fine at all. Be good and respectful, it is worst still when one is older than the other in friendship. Considering a relationship between an elderly lady and a young lady, who she could even have as a daughter, take for instance the older is very humble but the younger one suddenly becomes disrespectful. It is not right at all. Do not take advantage of anyone with humility, for if you do, you burden yourself with guilt. By someone being humble, it does not mean the person is a fool. She is only observing the Laws of God in Creation. Love your neighbor as yourself. She loves her neighbor with genuineness of heart and without prejudice. So do not take advantage of this one but regard and respect her so as not to burden yourself with guilt as I mention earlier.
“Familiarity brings contempt.” Except you come across those who make it so. Immediately, arrogance or pride or lack of respect sets in one of the parties in a relationship, then one of them suffer contempt which should not be so. When there exists humility between the two parties, this can never occur. Except it is lacking. The closer you are to someone, the more you should cherish and regard them because of your consciousness of the Grace of the Lord that permitted such friendship. Being aware that the other is a creature of the Lord like yourself, who suddenly is placed before you. If you harbor genuine love of God within you, there will never be contempt in the relationship. Familiarity will never bring contempt as it is usually said. You should cherish every relationship. Most especially, the one brought about by the Grace of the Lord. There are uncountable human spirits walking the surface of the earth that might never cross your path until you leave this world. Probably you have a lesson or two to learn from the one. Definitely it is for a reason for paths of human spirits to come across one another. Whether also to atone for a karmic thread and be free of it. When conscious of this, all that must emanate from you to the other is genuine love in joy, peace, harmony and furthering, which knows nothing of that nature – contempt, if standing aright in Creation. Instead, respectfulness and benefits should ensure from such union or friendship amongst people. Whether the friendship is between the young and the old, man and woman, love all a sundry alike. There must exist the genuine love of the heart with regard and respect to all. Love all but trust only the Lord. The Perfect One. All human spirits walking the surface of the earth are all struggling towards perfection. None is perfect, be patient and leave room for disappointment. When offended, never dwell on it but pray for strength to look beyond the mistakes of the neighbors that comes across your path as I mentioned earlier. You must learn to forgive always so that you can be free in spirit in order not to lose your connection with the Light.
Everything that stands in the Light is in harmony with Creation. Harmoniously vibrating in His Will and Laws. Let me expatiate further still, familiarity should never bring contempt except it is allowed by the two parties concerned. Reason being that they lack genuine love and spiritual maturity. If everyone swings in the Will of the Most High, God, then there will be no room for such. Mankind must swing at last in the Will of the Lord, the Laws of God so as to be well behaved in His Creation where all are guests. Bring spirituality into every act of yours including friendship. By so doing, there will be no contempt between friends any longer. This you must observe with humility and sincerity of your being. Also with friendship – do not base it on only materialism but also spirituality. Friends should advance towards the noble and high. If there exists genuine love between friends as I mentioned earlier, then there will be room for help to the other for enlightenment towards spiritual advancement. Whatever you offer to your friend materially is nothing in comparison to the spiritual. Friends are to uplift each other towards the noble and high. Then it shall be a glorious friendship of furthering at the end of it all. Though as of present, one can hardly find real friendship here on earth anywhere you look. It takes a torch in the day to locate one. No longer can one find genuine friendship. As if a being called “Friendship” has been withdrawn from this earth plain due to lack of sincerity of heart from men to one another. No genuine love amongst mankind and if any very rare to find. This can be restored, if only mankind could retrace their steps by fully getting aware of the Grace of the Lord's involvement in this act. Man must develop true love, patience and perseverance for all other creatures of the Lord. Then there will be no cause for “contempt” in familiarity between friends or a group of people. Anywhere contempt is, there is no Light of God, and where there is no Light of God, there darkness looms and lodges. So strive towards achieving genuineness in friendship. Friendship must be a true one, with genuine love for the other in the furthering of spiritual advancement. If not, do not get involved so as not to burden yourself with guilt. At last, appreciate the friendship that is brought about by the Grace of the Lord and not the one by desperation of a self-willed imposition. Praying for strength to be able to discern which one it is, whether from the Lord or man-made. Be conscious of the grace of the Lord in this act and upon your life. By so doing, you will never go wrong. You will be led by your intuition. The intuitive perception in man can never be wrong. Learn to listen more to your inner voice. It is not for nothing the saying, “the first impression goes a long way.” It is a great ability to be able to discern rightly. Withdraw from the saying that familiarity in friendship brings contempt so as not to miss it when you come across even a spiritually matured person that might likely be of assistance to you, who could help to uplift you towards your spiritual advancement by enlightenment. If you are not humble, contempt might set in and you may likely miss such help. Be alert and vigilant to sense the Grace of the Lord when ibestowed upon you. I wish you this.
I leave you with this prayer until I come your way again:
"May I possess genuine love for my neighbor and observe friendship in a different Light. In the way of the Lord, without contempt but with regard and respect towards all creatures of the Lord in the furthering towards spiritual advancement. Also to maintain the position in standing harmoniously with the rest of Creation." Amen